Should First Impressions Be Important?
I recently read a great blog post about first impressions, and felt compelled to keep the conversation going, but from a different point of view.
While the author of the post did a tremendous job at identifying why it’s important for us to make a good first impression, and to always be neatly dressed, well groomed, etc… one quote in the post will stay with me forever, and has completely change my opinion, regarding first impressions.
So, do we judge people too harshly, based on appearance? I know that I used to be guilty of this. And while I’ve never judged someone based on their race or color, and despise prejudice of any kind, there was a time in my life that I had preconceived ideas about people based on their clothing, tattoos, condition of their teeth, or other such things.
People Are Like A Box Of Chocolates, Jenny
Over the years I’ve come to realize that these things can be very misleading and I was wrong in my conclusions more often than not. Because of this, I’ve put an end to this childish behavior, and honestly believe that when we are judging others, it’s more about us. It’s more of a way that we can elevate ourselves and create a false sense of superiority. If we tend to focus on the external versus the internal, and we allow ourselves to get hung up on superficial qualities, then we must be insecure about ourselves.
What do we get from this negative behavior? Well, I can say from personal experience that we get exactly what we put out there. Like attracts like, it’s the law of the universe, and whatever energy and attitude we project will simply come and smack us right back in the face.
Bad karma is something to consider, and obviously not something that we want, but there are so many additional reasons that we shouldn’t pre judge people. One thing that resonated with me, from the post that I read, was a quote about the fact that if you offered people 2 boxes of the same type of chocolate, yet one box was wrapped in fancy paper and ribbon, and the other in a brown paper wrapper, people would obviously choose the pretty one. All I could think was, “how sad”!
The Only Difference Is The Wrapper
I know that I will never forget how I felt when I read that, and the emotions that it stirred inside of me. It confirmed a lesson for me and I hope it will do the same for you; we never know what we’re missing out on, if we keep our minds and hearts closed. So the next time you meet someone, remember that quote. Remember that the chocolate inside those 2 boxes are the same… the only difference is the wrapper. It would be such a shame if you missed out on something (or someone) very special, just because you couldn’t see past the wrapper!